Love of Smoking  :

At one stage you probably loved smoking, this love affair might still be strong or you may have realised that you don’t really love it loving smoking can lead to a horrible deathany more.
Your love of smoking may be so strong that you can’t free yourself from it. People love, or think they love all kinds of people, substances or ideas that undermine or help to destroy them.
You may now hate smoking but you have been so locked into the habit that it is just to hard to give up. It’s easier to continue with the old and familiar.
I’m going to make a suggestion and this is you should love smoking? What!!
Why do I suggest this?
Before I explain I’m going to ask you to bear with me and change your thinking about smoking. Instead of thinking that smoking is a habit I would like you to think of smoking as a deal.
Your deal with smoking
Smoking may give you pleasure and if it is not this it may be some other benefit or combination of benefits.
A big benefit that you get from smoking is that it helps you to fit in. Most people start smoking at an early age and they do so because everybody around them is smoking. When we don’t fit in we feel uncomfortable, this wanting to fit in is with us for all of our lives.
Another benefit of smoking is that it may help you to relax and handle stress. It can help in social situations because it helps you link to other people with whom you have common ground; smoking.
Smoking may seem like a friend in that it is something that is always there and can help you in good and bad times.
Some people feel that smoking is a reward for when a task is finishes or it gives them time out from a situation. Time, to reassess or to break up the day.
Smoking may also be a way to have a break away from the kids or to spend quality time with your partner.
These are genuine benefits but are the cost of these benefits really worth it?

So what do you get in return?
For giving you pleasure, a sense of identity, something to lean on when times are tough, the feeling of being able to relax or concentrate, have a reward, quality time cigarettes and smoking gets your money and time, some if not all of your fertility, the brightness of your eyes, the youthfulness of your skin, your sexual and general fitness and for one out of every two frequent long term smokers, your life. It gives you an almost certainty that your life will be shorter.
Is this really a fair and equal deal?
If you want this deal that you have with smoking and cigarettes to be fair and equal you really need to love smoking like nothing else in your life. If you love smoking that much then this deal that you have with smoking and cigarettes are worth it.
When you look at what cigarettes do to you in terms of health and control then the only way that smoking can be considered a fair deal is that it gives you benefits that are worth the sacrifice. Enjoying smoking is not a fair deal; loving smoking like nothing else is a fair deal even if it means that you pay the ultimate price in the end.

About Steve Gardiner

Stephen Gardiner originates from Rhodesia, (Zimbabwe) then working around the globe before finally settling in Brisbane Australia. As a scientist, Steve always had an interest in human development, especially Mind Plastisicity and how we cope with stress, anxiety and addictive behaviours. Over the past 15 years Steve has assisted many clients to transform their lives by resolving the obstacles holding them back.

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