Learn to set boundaries. When you put others before you, you are living their lives not yoursWhen we are born, we all have the same abilities. If this is so why do some of us rise to the top of success and others of us do not? The answer is that we set the boundaries of what we can and cannot do. These boundaries are set from the moment we are born and they are often a result of fear.
Fear is both a positive and negative thing. It sets the flight response in us and gets us to move away from a potentially dangerous situation, or it can paralyse us and prevent us from reaching greater things. We fear many things in life; we fear failure, success, what people think of us etc. Often the fear exists in our minds and builds up as time goes on; it can build up to such an extent that it prevents you from achieving what you want in life.
F – False
E – Expectations
A – Appearing
R – Real

We play the movie in our minds without a cast or a script.

So how do we overcome our fears? One of the best ways is to confront them by taking action. Just like the Nike slogan “Just Do It”. When we take action, we often find that the fear that was holding us back is nowhere near as bad as we thought.

I work with an Olympic athlete, and she gave me a fantastic piece of advice, she said “When I feel fear, I do not let myself go down that road”.

At Quit Smoking Expert here in Capalaba, I often have people that come to me and say that they have not quit smoking because they are afraid of failure. This fear can let you live a life where you will die earlier, have a high chance of cancer or heart disease and look older. Is this a fair exchange, you can choose to take action or let the fear rule you.

About Steve Gardiner

Stephen Gardiner originates from Rhodesia, (Zimbabwe) then working around the globe before finally settling in Brisbane Australia. As a scientist, Steve always had an interest in human development, especially Mind Plastisicity and how we cope with stress, anxiety and addictive behaviours. Over the past 15 years Steve has assisted many clients to transform their lives by resolving the obstacles holding them back.

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